(\u59b3\u5f9e\u59b3\u6bcd\u89aa\u90a3\u5152\u5b78\u5230\u751a\u9ebc\u662f\u4e00\u500b\u53f0\u7063\u4eba?)<\/em><\/p>\nHow to be supportive of the family (help with chores, listen respectfully).<\/p>\n
Food \u2014 we were living in a rural area with no restaurants, so had to make everything from scratch. BahTsang, hotpot, soymilk\/yutiao, onion cakes, dumplings etc.<\/p>\n
Tell us about one of your earliest memories of your mother.<\/strong> (\u59b3\u5c0d\u6bcd\u89aa\u6700\u65e9\u7684\u8a18\u61b6\u662f\u751a\u9ebc?)<\/em><\/p>\nMaking man-to on the kitchen counter. She let me make whatever shapes I wanted, like play-doh. <\/p>\n
What is the most important thing you have learned from your mother?<\/strong> (\u59b3\u5f9e\u6bcd\u89aa\uff0f\u5973\u5152\u5b78\u5230\u7684\u6700\u91cd\u8981\u7684\u662f\u751a\u9ebc?)<\/em><\/p>\nNo matter how hard things get, don\u2019t give up.<\/p>\n
Tell us about the ways that your mother makes you proud.<\/strong> (\u59b3\u6bcd\u89aa\uff0f\u5973\u5152\u8b93\u4f60\u611f\u5230\u9a55\u50b2\u7684\u662f\u751a\u9ebc?)<\/em><\/p>\nBeing different is ok; encouraged me to be who I am.<\/p>\n
Tell us about how your mother inspires you.<\/strong> (\u59b3\u7684\u6bcd\u89aa\uff0f\u5973\u5152\u5982\u4f55\u6fc0\u52f5\u59b3?)<\/em><\/p>\nEven though she never made it to high school in Taiwan, she successfully got her GED in the US and then a college degree.<\/p>\n
As time has gone on, how has your relationship with your mother changed?<\/strong> (\u96a8\u8457\u5e74\u6b72\u7684\u589e\u9577\uff0c\u59b3\u5011\u6bcd\u5973\u95dc\u4fc2\u6709\u600e\u9ebc\u6a23\u7684\u8b8a\u5316?)<\/em><\/p>\nMy relationship with my mom was never the same after she found out I started having boyfriends in college, as if I took the family honor away (how anachronistic!) I was incessantly called every rude name you can imagine, while trying to get through my really tough engineering classes. In trying to understand her point of view, I realize there were consequences to premarital sex at her generation because of pregnancy, so \u201cpurity\u201d is important. I just couldn\u2019t understand how any parent can be so oppressive and say such vile things their own child. It took years to regain a civil relationship with her and my dad again, but I don\u2019t think the undercurrent of disgust ever went away, as the years went by with my dating life through my 20\u2019s and 30\u2019s. In my humble opinion, how can we know what kind of person should be our life partner without trying different personalities? It\u2019s like buying the first house that you see.<\/p>\n
When I became a mom, there was another strange rough patch, as if she assumed her maternal grandma role where HER grandma (my great grandma). She must have been a tyrant towards my maternal grandma (my mom\u2019s mom), who never was allowed to go to school \u2014 like Joy Luck Club, she had been given away as a baby and an indentured servant to that household where she eventually married the son of the house (Ew, gross! Can you imagine marrying your equivalent brother??) Not surprising that my maternal grandpa left his wife when my mom was only 5. My grandma was expected to do the cooking, cleaning, shopping, etc. When she turned 16, she was asked if she wanted to stay with the family and was too afraid to say no. <\/p>\n
When my first baby was born, my mom seemed happy for me at first, but as the weeks rolled by, she became conspicuously absent by going to her room like a phantom when I went to visit, leaving only my Dad to interact with us. She would do subversive things like turn up the TV to make sure it wakes me and the baby up when she knows we\u2019re asleep, as if she\u2019s getting back at us for something she keeps to herself and doesn\u2019t articulate to me the things that I could\u2019ve either changed or apologized for. Now with my 2nd daughter, I\u2019m glad her passive aggressive tendencies have diminished, as I\u2019ve learned better ways to react and manage communication through counseling.<\/p>\n
What is one thing that you would like your mother to know?<\/strong> (\u6709\u90a3\u4ef6\u4e8b\u662f\u59b3\u5e0c\u671b\u8b93\u59b3\u7684\u6bcd\u89aa\uff0f\u5973\u5152\u77e5\u9053\u7684?)<\/em><\/p>\nNo matter what are differences are and difficulties we have had through the years, I still love her and wish her the best that life has to offer.<\/p>\nWhat did you learn from your mother about being Taiwanese? (\u59b3\u5f9e\u59b3\u6bcd\u89aa\u90a3\u5152\u5b78\u5230\u751a\u9ebc\u662f\u4e00\u500b\u53f0\u7063\u4eba?) How to be supportive of the family (help with chores, listen respectfully). Food \u2014 we were living in a rural area with no restaurants, so had to make everything from scratch. BahTsang, hotpot, soymilk\/yutiao, onion cakes, dumplings etc. Tell us about one of your […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[7],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1778","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-100-mothers-and-daughters"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.taiwaneseamerican.org\/100people\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1778"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.taiwaneseamerican.org\/100people\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.taiwaneseamerican.org\/100people\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.taiwaneseamerican.org\/100people\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.taiwaneseamerican.org\/100people\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1778"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.taiwaneseamerican.org\/100people\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1778\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.taiwaneseamerican.org\/100people\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1778"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.taiwaneseamerican.org\/100people\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1778"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.taiwaneseamerican.org\/100people\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1778"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
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<\/a>What did you learn from your mother about being Taiwanese?<\/strong> (\u59b3\u5f9e\u59b3\u6bcd\u89aa\u90a3\u5152\u5b78\u5230\u751a\u9ebc\u662f\u4e00\u500b\u53f0\u7063\u4eba?)<\/em><\/p>\n